Heading for your first Fathers' Day?

My husband and I have just had our first baby. Our daughter is only three months old. My husband is not coping with the baby’s crying and wants to hand her back as soon as she starts. He gets frustrated because he wants to be involved but can’t handle it. I think it’s him being wound up and tense and she feels it and that’s why she keeps crying. He’s worried that he’ll lose it and that someone will get hurt. Can you please help? (Post to a parenting website)