Leading relationship expert, Dr John Gottman, says “Small Things Often”:
“It is the small things often, more often, which make a relationship be fulfilling and the couple connected.”
Some of my favourite Gottman quotes:
“The greatest gift you can give your children is a strong relationship between their parents.”
“Great relationships are built on a deep friendship, mutual respect and enjoyment of each other’s company.”
“What you do everyday matters more than what you do once in a while.”
So if it’s the small things daily and not just the biggest box of chocolates, a romantic (often expensive) dinner out, a bunch of flowers, a new shirt, tie or CD…what is it that we can do to show our partners that we are living our love intentionally?
Here is a few ideas to get you thinking of how you can do “small things often” and turn towards your partner to show them you are loving them intentionally. This in turn will add to your “emotional bank account deposits” to create a stronger bond in your partnership.
So that doesn’t sound too hard − some would say not that’s not very exciting − but it is these small gestures which help you stay connected and ensure your partner feels s/he is your priority.
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Have a great St Valentine’s Day – for me a reminder day – what should we be doing more often?